Then when they get married they discover the shocking reality.. their partners just cant stop swallowing their money and using them.. and when they get a divorce the women throws her kids on him and runs away to her country..

Now the biggest problem is created, “there is no one who will take care of the kids seriously” and they will be thrown on the maids.. then the kids will grow spoilt and will get married and spoil other peoples lives.. so its a never ending story..

Then they say, its was all my mistake.. BUT why regret afted you created the problem.. u should avoid it .. but who listens..

and at the end of the day they say,” locals ask for large amount of dowry b4 marriage”.. but they dont realize that SOME foreigners b4 marriage will talk about simplicity and what eva, but they will suck them after marriage for the rest of their lives.. at least we spend the money on their gifts and children.

But it doesnt mean that they shouldnt marry a foreigner, if they get a long and their partner is loyal, sincere, have the same or similar thoughts, way of living, have close family values and respect each other and their families and friends with a clear heart..then there is no problem in that.. its just they have to really know the person deep inside, accept each others thinking and sacrifise, education, ways of communication and not be attracted to their looks only..

and VICE VERSA

Im writing this through what i have experienced with in my family and friends.

There are many men, myself included, who are trying to marry from the UAE. But as my experience had shown me, there are too many factors in society that would detract women from actually going towards marriage. Its not the topic of wwhether she should work or not any more, I never place a precondition like that since my own mother had a career, but more often than not, women are more inclined to work, study and not place emphasis on marriage, in the same manner local are striving. They’re talking in two relatively different languages, and add to that the various other factors like social statuses, tribalism…etc. Men go out of the local norms to marry someone else in order to start a family. At least that’s my view of it (of serious men).

But the other side of it, many men today are either not serious or too materialistic to even understand the importance and need to main our society via marriage as being the uilding block institution. They either have this impression that family will select to them someone, and that’s basically the ultimate laziness on their end, or they’re too busy to even care, and hence they fall into other immoral traps that surround local men today.

In either case, I can conclude the following:

1) Local tradition isn’t working, and its not helping both men and women towards reaching their goal in establishing a family (and this is in the midst of an ever increasing materialistic society we are living in)

2) People need to humble themselves more, and not comodotize or monetise their families, as this is a major driver in making simple people select outside.

3) The govt wants to help, and this action is only a sign of how the numers and statistics are worrying. But I also feel that many people will take this topic, and sensationalise this topic, and sadly, people will forget the original issue to begin with.

In anycase, I will look at this with a bit of optimism, and much sceptism as well…as we (nationals) make this topic the discussion of expatriates who continue to watch this as though our people are endangered lab rats. Its sad but I do hope that trends change for the better of our nation.

-MJ

it is lack of ability to compromise between couples which is mandatory to attain a balance which is base to any workable relationship, be it among nationals or foreigners.

when persons from different cultures expose themselves to other religions, people or say the least to other lifestyles, they should be ready, to be flexible to adopt the best among others as available.

i wonder how people opt for the final step unless they have not overcome the differences between each other before reaching such an important step we call a “Marriage’” ?

Marriage is not just about social acceptance, it is about creating a life together, which requires certain level of acceptance among both parties involved for a balanced relationship.

as for advice is concern, if one accepts the advice with limited viewpoint, its fair to agree with such saying, however if one keeps an open mind and able to see the reality, then the cause which is being mentioned as to not to marry a foreigner is not enough, as it has jeopardized many marriages among nationals as well, where the cause of divorce if was not culture / religion, its been either financial/emotional or maximum due to non-compromising inflexible/rigid personality indifference……